Surviving the Season of Singleness

Welcome! I’m so glad you’re here. Let’s get right to it this week. 

Single life. 

We’ve all been there. Heck, some of us are there right now! *cough* ha hum, ME! It’s beautiful. It’s messy. It’s confusing. But most importantly, it’s an exciting adventure and much needed time for everyone. Like everything else in life, there’s the good and there’s the bad when it comes to being single. Me being the optimistic person that I am (or try to be), I choose to look at this season of life as a time for growth – mentally, spiritually, physically.

This is the time where we truly find ourselves; find what we want out of life, what we enjoy, the type of people we want to be around, the type of career we want to have, where we want to live. This is the time to be completely selfish in the things that you want. Take the risk. Buy the couch. Move out of state. Make a blog. Start a company. Switch career paths. Get that certification. Go back to school. Whatever it may be, when you’re in the season of singleness (making up words as I go here, bear with me), you need to be bold in your decisions.

The reason – once you’re married and settled down, you have to make more rational and practical decisions; decisions that make sense for you and your family. Now, this may be common knowledge to some, but I’m serious! An emerald green, velvet couch probably wouldn’t be a practical decision if you have three kids and two dogs. At that point in your life, you would need something that is much more durable for the rough and rowdy, the shedding, and the spills. So, I say embrace your creativity while you still can!

How am I getting my way through this season? Well, there are a few things. For starters, I’m slowly learning how to play the guitar. I’ve wanted to learn how to play the guitar and piano for years, but between work and school, I just never had time. Now that I’m finished with school, I am making sure to take time for myself and that includes learning how to play an instrument. I’ve watched a ton of Marty’s Music YouTube videos specifically geared towards newbies and I’m loving it! Worst part so far, my finger tips are killing me! That just shows you just how much of a newbie I am at it. I’ve been told that it’ll take a few weeks of consistent practice before they start to feel better and build up strength. I’m looking forward to learning how to play some of the classics, and of course all Morgan Wallen songs.

The second little hobby that I have is taking care of plants -trying to channel my inner green thumb here. You could almost say they’re my second kind of babies; however, they aren’t striving as well as Luke and Callie. No one has died – yet – and we’re trying to keep it that way. But plants are super, duper temperamental. Once I gather my bearings on them and grasp how to keep them beautiful and striving, I’ll report back. So, keep an eye out! 

Lastly, I’ve picked up reading. I like to say I’ve always been a reader, a couple of books here or there over a few years, but I never actually stayed consistent on reading the books I started. With the new year here, I have made it my resolution to stay consistent with reading. So far so good. I’ve read some inspirational books, love stories, and even action-packed ones. Some have been on my tablet, others audio books, but mostly paperback. I’ll share a post soon about my favorite books and why they’re my faves. 

Being single does have its downfalls. When you see your married friends living the life you want, or having kids, it makes it tough. If you’re anything like me, it can sometimes put you in a funk. We all see our lives being a certain way and when we see others living it before we can, it can be disheartening and the green, ugly monster, Jealousy, likes to sneak in. Or when you’re at a family holiday party and your great Aunt Beatrice and Uncle Joe keep asking when you’re going to settle down and all you can do is smile and internally roll you eyes and cry hysterically – okay, that last part is a tad bit dramatic, but you get the picture – it makes you feel like you’re the size of a green pea.

But being single most definitely has its perks! You can do anything you want. You can go anywhere you want. You can hangout with whoever you want. You can FLIRT with whoever you want! You can wear what you want. You can eat what you want. Okay, I think you get the picture. But basically, the world is your oyster and you have no one to answer to but yourself. Want to lounge around the house all day? No problem. Want to travel out of state for the weekend? Go for it! This is the time to do the things you’ve always wanted to do.

One thing I always find that helps me remain positive and hopeful is reminding myself that God has a plan for each and every one of us. We just have to trust in that plan and remember we’re in the best hands. God would never let us down. What He has in store for us is so much more amazing than we could ever imagine, we just gotta have that patience. 

Between having faith in God and keeping ourselves busy with learning new things or picking up new hobbies, our knight in shining armor is bound to show up at our doorstep before we know it. And girl, I would love to dive feet first into dating sites and all the swiping, but I’ll save that for a post all on its own. Stay tuned and stay candid!

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